I was supposed to post this in February but I got busy 😝, it still applies tho 😌, so here goes.
It’s the mind games for me…the overwhelming feeling of inadequacy as Valentines day approaches and you have no one to claim or claim you.
Scroll through any of your social media apps and you’ll see seemingly harmless yet purposeful posts of couples proclaiming their undying love and enduring romance.
Now if you’re a cynic, you’ll roll your eyes and reach for the barf bag while wondering who they’re trying to convince.  But if you’re a romantic, you’ll oooh and aaah at every picture and feel good that the world is full of love. I’m  both, depending on the day and my mood.Whichever category you fall in, the most romantic,  supposedly love filled holiday is upon us this month,  so brace yourself for a never ending barrage of how your day is meaningless unless filled with something red.
Never mind that its origin is purported to be the day a Roman priest Valentine was brutally executed while proclaiming his undying love for his lover…capitalism has found a new meaning for that day……so dear friends, if you have no plans, log off and read a book.
Personally,  I never want to be anywhere in public on Valentines day. It’s too much pressure for someone like me who thrives in the comfort of not having to convince myself or anyone of my true state of being. But shout-out to the businesses that thrive during this time,…. as a lover of money 💰💰…., I stan. Hit up my amazon storefront  for  my go to at home valentines list of must haves (shameless plug) http://www.amazon.com/shop/afromomma
The one time I remember going to a restaurant with my then boyfriend who was planning to propose ( I saw the ring 😂 it never happened,  and I would’ve said no anyway….what can I say, c’est la vie? or que sera, sera) was crowded, noisy and not relaxing.
Now as a mother,  my kids often take over  whatever gift I receive for Valentines ,be it strawberries, chocolate or flowers.  Not that I’m trying to be a martyr by pretending that my kids are the only Valentines I need….au contraire, I love my adult laced romance complete with gestures and intense bedroom gymnastics 😉, because who are we kidding,  ain’t those some of the best moments ❤.

But I’ve also learned that I don’t have to “miss out” on all the loving, I’ve learned the importance of dating yourself, taking yourself out, buying yourself that gift…which by the way is the best because you know exactly what you like…it doesn’t always have to be about having a person, treat yourself like a priority because you are your longest commitment.

So what are you up to this weekend? you want to know what I’m up to? scrolling through my social media app and admiring or fake gagging on your love day posts while sipping my hospital coffee and hoping my day is uneventful during my shift..I’m usually too tired to care once I get home so the most romantic thing I’ll do is crawl into my bed after a disinfectant filled shower.

More importantly, don’t wait all year to show yourself some love…love should be an everyday vibe, and it has to start from you.

May you find the love that you desire….I’m rooting for you.